I’d like to talk a little bit about the trend of meeting the actors after the show at the stage door. I strongly believe that this is a privilege, not a right. The performers’ jobs end when the curtain goes down. When they do come out, it is up to the fans to be respectful and aware of the boundaries. Some things that are no-nos in my opinion: touching the actor unless they touch you first, asking for a hug, having them sign multiple items, asking them to make funny faces, insulting any other performer or show. If you have doubts about saying or doing something, don’t say or do it.
I think it’s also the responsibility of the actors to at least be polite if they come out to sign. If for whatever reason they feel they can’t be polite, they should use another exit. I should add add that though some performers are friendlier than others, I personally have never seen a performer be rude at the stage door.
Generally, It’s a good idea to keep things in perspective. The stage door should never be more important than the show, and talking to someone at the stage door does not mean they’re your friend. The stage door can be a wonderful experience for everyone as long as the fans and performers have a healthy, respectful attitude. I’m very grateful for the meaningful stage door experiences I’ve had as a fan.